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The
Stories Behind Just Mom and
Me. This one hour documentary
film tells the story of how five different women are coping with the
challenges of parenting alone.
As
they learn to juggle their jobs, romantic lives, and motherly responsibilities,
each of the women discover frustrations and rewards in creating a
template
for fatherless child rearing.
There are more than 25 million single mothers heading households in America.
What does this statistic say about our society and how motherhood has
evolved over the last 50 years?
Filmed over a period of three years, these realistic stories create a
new paradigm of motherhood.
Isayana | Diana
| Adi
| Tracey
| Beth
Isayana
was born in Nicaragua and came to San Francisco when she was two years
old with her mother and father. She dropped out of High School at
age 14 during a tumultuous relationship with her boy friend.
"He wanted us to get married... I had my engagement ring and
everything, we were getting our wedding rings set. I think we were
trying to have a baby... "
Her baby's father left her when she was four months pregnant.
"The day that I decided to have sex with him I knew that I would
have to take everything with it, I mean, sex wasn't even all that
good for me... " |

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Diana,
Asian American mother to 3 year
old Leslie, works four days a week as the company lawyer at BusinessWire
in downtown San Francisco. "I've done many settlement negotiations
with a child on the breast which the other side never knew (laughs),
'say excuse me a minute, I have to change sides'."
Diana, 44, was in a relationship with boyfriend, Warner, when they
decided to have a baby. After one miscarriage they were able to conceive.
"I don't know if I ever really loved Leslie's father. I think
I loved the idea of having a nuclear family and I put him into my
little dream... My dream burst when I realized I was doing this on
my own, I went to the hospital on my own and I came home on my own.
I've always been on my own." |

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In
1989, Adi's husband Julius, died of
lung cancer leaving her to care for their daughter, Amaya. Julius
was African-American and Adi is Jewish.
"For the first couple of years it felt like we weren't quite
a family, having dinner was just the two of us, we really missed Julius'
presence a lot...gradually that changed and we became the family that
we are, we're a family of two. "
"I'm always going to miss him. I'm always going to wonder what
I would have been like with a dad. If someone could say, 'If I could
bring back your dad would you want him?' I would say no. This is an
all woman house now and if suddenly there's a guy living there I think
that'd be really weird," says Amaya. |

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The
best thing about being a single parent",
says Tracey, "is that you get to make all the decisions, and
I like that." An African-American mother of three children, Kristy,
17, Michael, 15, and Jonathan, 10, Tracey, 35, obtained a teaching
credential from Mills College in 1995. "I was married at 17 and
divorced at 20...my life was raising my first two kids!..."
"Every relationship my mother's been in, as far as having a male
in her life, has always ended up hurting me or my mother...there's
never been anything really positive that's come out of her marriages...
" says Kristy.
"I look at my life as if it's a small company," says Tracey,
"...and that I have to get the other people in the company to
manage their time, their energy and their space...I have a pager,
I probably need a cell phone. They know that they're supposed to call
and check in and say 'I've arrived.'" |

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At
39 years old, Beth decided to be donor
inseminated because "I didn't really have a partner at the time.
I didn't know if I waited that there would be opportunity to have
one later." She was impregnated on the 4th try. "This is
the best I've ever felt in my life. I feel this is really meant to
be", says Beth at 6 months pregnant. She is a Human Resource
Specialist who has worked at Chevron for over 17 years.
Her daughter Kaitlyn was born on August 18th, 1995, by cesarean section.
Two weeks after the baby was born she said, "It's overwhelming
to think that I'm the only person, there isn't a male partner...I've
had a lot of tears about that thinking why didn't I do it with a partner.
It's a lot at 3 a.m. in the morning to have no one to hand the baby
off to." |
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